
Tools for CoupleWork
The relationships tools in this section are to support couples who are meeting with me
Dudes – Needing to Talk
This is post is specifically for blokes - Dudes who want to fix the relationship,...
Couple Dialog Overview
Derailing Conversations in Relationships Couple conversations can get derailed....
Empathy Statements
When you are the receiver in a conversation, it helps the speaker if they think...
The Stages of Love in Marriage
Fallen out of love? Quite often I'm visited by a couple where one partner no longer...
Reflective Listening
Non-Defensive Responding There are different definitions of reflecting used in...
The Couple Dialog: The 4 Stages
This is the process to follow. There are four stages. The 'scripted phrases' act as...
Self-care After a Session
It can be helpful to plan self-care after each couple session. Couple sessions can...
Tea and Consent
I've written this post to assist couples in relationships where non-consensual sex...
Low Libido in the Relationship
It can be difficult when there is an imbalance of libido in the relationship. It...
Communicating Frustrations
How can we communicate a frustration in a helpful way? One way is to use an "I...
Couple Dialog with Frustrations
The Couple Dialog has an additional step when used to converse about frustrations...
Boundaries or Control in Couple Relationships
Control, Privacy and Healthy Boundaries If you haven’t yet been introduced to the...
“All or Nothing” Expectations around Our Partner’s Addiction
When someone we love has an addiction, it's...
Healing Past Hurts: An Apology Process for Couples
Horrible couple-conversations from long ago seem to bubble up sometimes. Arguments....
Dating Your Spouse: Reconnecting for Married Couples
Couples in marriage relationships sometimes stop doing what they used to do. They...
Finding stuff to talk about
Sometimes it can be hard to talk. Maybe you are comfortable not talking. Perhaps it...
How often should we meet?
Couples sometimes are not sure how often they should meet. The initial stages of...
Needing to Talk
Sometimes we may feel a strong need to talk. However, we may not have someone to...
Communicating after Betrayal
Betrayal Trauma and Couple Communication What is betrayal trauma? When betrayal...
3 Ways to Meet With Me
You can meet with me ... Zoom (Mornings) F2F (Afternoons and evenings) Phone (Any...
Time Out to Recover
De-escalate the Couple Conflict Some relationship tools are helpful in...
Setting Boundaries
Couples can set boundaries to make things better in the relationship. Boundaries...
A-B-C (Awareness, Breathe, Choose)
What You Can Feel You Can Heal Awareness of what we feel is the first step to...
Couple Dialog Conversations can Feel Weird
Couple Dialog can feel weird. Partly because the speaking and listening is...
Chat for 15 minutes a Day
The Couple Dialog may take five days of practice before you are ready to talk about the Big Issues.