Follow-up Posts
A-B-C Awareness, Breathe, Choose.
Menu blog posts for appreciations and practicing the Couple Dialog
About Me
I'm Henk. I've been...
Couple Mediation
When the conflict has a...
Work Mediation
Conflict Coaching: I...
Family Mediation
Conflict Coaching: I...
Betrayal Trauma – Cheating
Building a Future...
Sexting Betrayal Trauma
Building a Future...
Couple Dialog Overview
Derailing Conversations...
Empathy Statements
How to make an Empathy...
The Stages of Love in Marriage
Fallen out of love?...
Reflective Listening
Non-Defensive...
Becoming more desirable partners: Wired for love – Let’s master it
The Death-rattle in a relationship: Defensiveness, Contempt, Criticism and Stonewalling
The defensiveness dance | The loudness and The Talking-over-the-top-of
Stop following: When you chase your partner
Time-out to cool down from anger: Agreeing on rules around taking time-out
Dating each week: Can you both agree on two rules
Responding Non-defensively to your partner: Reflecting
Is now a good time to talk? When being intentional in the relationship feels awkward.
Boundaries around hot topics: Time and place boundaries + Bedrooms are for the two s’s.
The speaker: How can you look after your partner during a couples dialog
The receiver: How can you help your partner feel heard, totally
Summary: How to make a good summary using the couples dialog
That makes sense because: Expressing empathy using the couples dialog
Solving big issues: How to use the couples dialog
5 – 7 unreconcilable differences
A choice when there is anger present in the relationship: I Feel Statements
Preventing the blame-game: Externalizing
How to build trust in the relationships: Turning towards
Bids for connection: How to build more trust
Making a relationship repair: How it affects your emotional bank account balance
Five steps to an apology process that is sincere and lasting
Anxiety in the session: How to overcome the stress with self-care
