My Focus

Twelve areas of my work with couples

 

 

The Focus of the Work I do

 

Quiet Couple Conversations

Learn and practice skills to stop The Loudness and The Shouting before it starts. It is often joined by The Arguing. The work I do is around helping couples to kick these problems out of the relationship, permanently.

Replacing 'Taken-For-Granted': How to get the Appreciation You Need.

When time goes by without regular deposits in your emotional love bank, The Taken-for-granted seems to take over. Practice exercises to restore and rebuild The Appreciation in the relationship.

How to gain forgiveness from your partner

Learn and practice how to overcome the inability to move past issues. Includes an apology process. Exercises and tools to off-stage The Unforgiveness with 1:1 practice on each other.

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Preventing Arguments: The Calm Instead of the Storm

Learn and practice skills to stop The Arguments from sneaking between you and stealing your couple closeness. Defeat recurring issues.

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The Money Issue Between Partners: Couple Help when there is Disagreement About The Money.

Learn skills and practice using the tools that disarm The Cash Culprit from wreaking the relationship.

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Rekindling The Love: Help when Love is Missing in the Relationship

Learn and practice how to overcome The Love Thief. Work together trying new skills and build love.

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Gaining Unity Before Marriage: Help to Start Your Enduring Marriage

Premarital exercises that prevent The Future Thief from taking your relationship away before you get married. Preparing your relationship for enduring joy.

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Battling Unfaithfulness: Becoming a Faithful Couple Again

Work together on exercises that step you through the apology process. Practice using tools to re-build trust and end The Unfaithfullness.

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No More Secrets: Becoming Transparent in the Relationship

Set in place new couple rules to defeat The Secret Chat: Cunning Digital destroyers including Twitter, SnapChat, FB, TXTing, Sexting, and Instagram.

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Regaining Trust and Love: Help to Rebuild Trust in the Relationship

Learn strategies and practice using new tools to build trust and love.  How to work together as a couple to push The Mistrust out and away from the relationship.

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Defeating the Four Enemies to your Relationship: Defensiveness, Criticism, Contempt and Stonewalling

Awareness training so these companion predators to your relationship get identified and kicked out. Practice in new choices that eradicate both The Criticism and The Contempt from the relationship.

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Pornography No More: Becoming Satisfied with your Partner

Learn strategies and practice skills that will help you both to disarm The Pornography Addiction from stealing the love, trust, commitment,  and hope for an enduring future in the relationship.

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with Henk

Work on this in a session

with Henk

When work and hectic schedules damage relationships: Help for couples working together, partners who have heavy work schedules who want a better relationship.

Couples in business can choose to repair the relationship and then move ahead on big decisions.

Learn to discuss business plans so you can move ahead together to make business decisions in unity.

For busy hard-working individuals in a relationship, help with communication, respect and setting boundaries.

I work with busy people. Couples who manage teams. Manage businesses. Or have a side-hustle that takes up all available time.

I work with you both around the relationship you share.

The cost of parting ways can be huge. Getting help can bring back the love and unity you want.

Then you can move forward together.

 

Why meet with me?

Meeting with me is something you and your partner would have to choose.

  • Do you and your partner have difficult issues in your relationship? About money? About sex?
  • Is there is a struggling-to-talk problem, a talking-over-the-top problem, a not-listening or a not-being-heard problem?
  • Is the loudness (shouting), the criticism, the contempt or the disrespect present in your relationship?
  • Do either of you have trouble respecting each-other's boundaries?
  • Do either of you want to set boundaries?
  • Is there is a loss-of-trust?

If "YES", then perhaps getting help could mean book a session