Qualifications

    • B Ed. University of Waikato
    • Associate of Science, BYUH
    • Post graduate studies in dispute resolution, 2019 – COUNS546, University of Waikato

Continuing Education

  • Student of Narrative Therapy Counselling at Dulwich Centre – Gateway to Narrative therapy
  • Student member of Resolution Institute – The largest dispute resolution membership organisation across Australia and New Zealand.

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I work in New Zealand

 Ralph Waldo Emerson, once said:

Be not the slave of your own past. Plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep and swim far, so you shall come back with self respect, with new power, with an advanced experience that shall explain and overlook the old.

Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882)

Relationship Counselling, marriage counselling and couple coaching.

Hi, I’m Henk Ensing. I work with individuals and with couples who want to improve their relationships.

Improving marriage relationships

Often a couple find themselves unable to communicate. Sometimes one or both feel as if love has left the relationship. Sometimes anger has crept in. Sometimes couples struggle to get along and this becomes a dominant visitor in the home. In all these cases, and more, help with the relationship may include unpacking the problem. Help can be learning new ways of living, loving and communicating. It can come in a session where some coaching can make all the difference.

How couple coaching helps the marriage relationship

I’m inviting you to come – come and prepare to change. 

You can choose to grow toward a sublime relationship – a relationship that is extremely good – even unparalleled – a relationship where you each become the best possible version of yourselves. 

How do you both feel about the idea of transformative change in your relationship and what does that mean? Sometimes, it means that things will be very different, or that your way of communicating will be totally different. This can be a huge relief to both of you when you have been trapped by habits in cycles of communication that are not serving you well.

Relationship Counselling and scope

It may be helpful to know the areas with which I do not help. My focus is on relationships and getting couples communicating to the point where they can go-on in the relationship. I include relationships with siblings, family, children and work colleagues. My work is not limited to relationships between a man and a woman. Other counsellors offer counselling in areas that are far out of the scope of my work. These include family counselling, addiction counselling, grief counselling, sex therapy, and mental health counselling. I do not offer any of these services. I am focused on conflict coaching with couples who have relationship issues. I use John Winslade’s approach of conflict coaching, in it’s entirely. The following areas I do not cover:

Areas of counselling

  • Marriage and relationship counsellors work with married couples or couples who live together and are in conflict. Married couples often take words from marriage counselors to heart. (Be sure your marriage and family counselor is certified to practice in your location.)
  • Family counsellors work with the family as a whole unit to provide social work and counseling services. While a therapist or social worker may see family members individually for more information — the primary focus of the social worker is on the family as a whole.
  • Addiction counsellors work with individuals who are addicted to substances or activities such as gambling or gaming. People who see addiction counselors are often referred for additional social work-related services like employment or housing services.
  • Grief Counsellors work with those who have suffered a loss of a loved one to provide counseling, social work, and other support services to help family members progress through the stages of the grieving process.
  • Sex Counsellors/therapists work with couples or individuals experiencing issues of a sexual nature or with sexual intimacy.
  • Mental health counsellors work with individuals who have been diagnosed with depression and other mental health disorders that can be managed through a range of therapies.

I offer couple conflict coaching where an individual or couple wants to go-on in an improved relationship. This coaching involves unpacking the problem and looking into the relationship to see what skills will help. It probably will involve change by one or both of you and practice in sessions to get it perfected until you can both get along on your own. You may find you have a new relationship with the same person as a result.

Ask for help

Asking for help is the first step you can take toward breaking the cycle of conflict that is playing out in your relationship.

Between sessions, practice the new skills until you notice early and respond with your training.

Like any skill, it may take several sessions for you notice early, breathe and choose a helpful response. Keep practicing during the week between sessions.

Most couples wait far too long before they ask for help.

As we unravel the difficulties you both face, we can come to understand the problem and thereby
open up for discovery the skills you need to shape your relationship.

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What are you noticing in your relationship?

I can help you notice what is going on in your relationship. Noticing is important because it helps reveal which skills are needed.

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I bring to my work, currently taught, leading relationship skills from world reknown relationship psychotherapists. I’ve studied conflict coaching at the University of Waikato in 2019 under the tutorship of John Winslade Ph.D., Professor of Counseling and Guidance, Dept of Special Education, Rehabilitation and Counseling
California State University. John is the author of numerous books  including Practicing Narrative Mediation – Loosening the Grip of Conflict. I use this approach in my work.

I’m married to Jenny, a relationship counsellor, and have been for 34 years. I hope that, at times, this experience informs me of a path forward while working with challenges in a relationship.

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Henk helps individuals and couples to renovate their relationships. Where couple conflict is present, couple communication exercises can renovate the relationship.

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