Rock Solid Relationships
From Conflict to Connection: Restoring Love Together
Struggling with disconnection, conflict, or communication that quickly escalates? I’m Henk, and I help couples find their way back to each other through calm, constructive conversations. In our sessions, we work together to break unhelpful patterns, address past hurts, and build healthier ways of relating — so you can move forward with renewed connection, clarity, and care.
Fees
“I offer TeleHealth sessions exclusively via Google Meet, so we can connect from wherever you are using your own device—no in-person meetings required.”
Looking for Relationship Help?
Hi, I'm Henk.
I work with couples who are navigating conflict, feeling disconnected, or struggling to communicate safely when conversations at home become heated or escalate. I provide a supportive space where you can talk together in a calm, constructive way — even about the hard stuff.
In each session, we explore meaningful paths forward—helping you move through challenges and toward reconnection, growth, and healing.
From Conflict to Connection: Restoring Love Together
Sessions can invite a transformative journey for couples seeking to heal and grow together. IPRE (Intimate Partner Relationship Education) within sessions invite stopping the cycle of conflict and embracing the opportunity to reconnect with the same person. Couples can explore how love can be restored, past hurts addressed, and helpful communication strategies considered.
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Every relationship has a story. In these sessions, couples are invited to explore how conflict may have shaped their shared narrative—and how it might be rewritten. Using Narrative Therapy, we look at the problem as separate from the people, making space to reconnect with core values, address past hurts, and consider more supportive ways of communicating.
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With an invitation to insight and a focus on improved ways of thinking about the relationship, each session seeks to empower couples with ways to navigate their challenges and rediscover the love that brought them together in the first place.
By fostering insight and encouraging better ways of thinking about their relationship, each session invites the possibility for couples to move forward with clarity, understanding, and renewed hope for the future.
Henk Ensing
Make a Time
Carve out 60 minutes to stop the widening gap. Book your session together. Think of it as your weekly date!
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Prioritize keeping the relationship by not allowing your relationship session to get derailed.
Open a Conversation
In the session Henk will invite a conversation about the relationship.
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Feel heard again in equal power-sharing conversations about the relationship.
Negotiate ways to talk, and ways to get relational space from each other, with consent. Where there's no following. Make intimacy possible again. Begin the process of connecting. Stop the widening gap.
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From Hamilton, I support couples across New Zealand via Google Meet.
Meeting with me via Google Meet offers a flexible, convenient, and private way to strengthen your relationship from the comfort of your own space. With no need to travel, it’s easier to fit sessions into your busy schedules, helping you stay committed to the process.
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Henk Ensing
Postliminary Training
Certificate | Advanced Skills in Narrative Practice: Narrative-Informed Relational Interviewing (NIRI) with Conflicted Couple Relationships (2023). CECs recognised by Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association (CCPA). Vancouver School of Narrative Therapy (VSNT)
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Helping Clients Cope and Heal from Sex Addiction–Intimacy Anorexia (SA-IA). (2024) This training introduced therapists to the concept of intimacy anorexia, its interplay with problematic sexual behaviors, and therapeutic approaches for clients and their partners. Presented by Dr. Janice Caudill, a psychologist and certified specialist with extensive experience in this field.
Same Gender Attraction, Pornography Addiction, Intergrative Behavioural Couple Therapy (IBCT) (2013). LDS Family Services, Welfare and Self Reliance Services, training presented by Michael Satele (MNZPS 90-02578) & Paulo Bisogno, (MNZPS 90-04583) Registered Psychologists.
Postliminary Studies Completed (PLIs and IPCs)
IPC; Conflict Resolution: Restorative Approaches | Facilitating Conflict Resolution through Mediation and Adopting a Narrative Perspective. (UoW, 2019). IPC, University of Waikato (UoW), Hamilton, New Zealand.
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Certificate | Working with People Facing Despair, Unworthiness and/or Suicidal Thoughts: Moving Beyond Risk Assessment Towards Stories of Resistance and Hope (2024). Narrative Therapy Initiative, Postliminary Intensive (PLI), Narrative Therapy Initiative (NTI), 65 Tyler Avenue, Medford, MA 02155, USA.
PLS; Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model Training (2021). Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS). APSATS is a non-profit organization providing professional training and compassionate support to partners affected by problematic sexual behavior and betrayal trauma. APSATS, Dublin, OH 43016-9296, USA.
Undergraduate Degrees
- Associate of Science (AS), BYUH
- Bachelor of Education (BEd), University of Waikato (UoW)
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IAMFC Membership
I hold to membership in the International Association of Marriage and Family Counsellors (IAMFC).
