Henk Ensing

I work with couples and relationship issues via Zoom.

Meeting with me:

In each session, our conversation negotiates possible paths for you both through the challenging terrain of conflict towards a path of reconnection and healing.

The NIRI (Narrative Informed Relational Interviewing) session explores any possible ways that love can be restored, and past hurts can be healed by fostering connecting ways of moving forward within the relationship.

With an invitation to insight and a focus on improved ways of thinking about the relationship, each session offers to empower couples with ways to navigate their challenges and rediscover the love that brought them together in the first place.

Book a couple session with me, Henk Ensing, via Zoom.

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From Conflict to Connection: Restoring Love Together

Sessions can invite a transformative journey for couples seeking to heal and grow together. IPRE (Intimate Partner Relationship Education) within sessions invite stopping the cycle of conflict and embracing the opportunity to reconnect with the same person. Couples can explore how love can be restored, past hurts addressed, and helpful communication strategies considered.

By fostering insight and encouraging better ways of thinking about their relationship, each session invites the possibility for couples to move forward with clarity, understanding, and renewed hope for the future.

Henk Ensing

Communicating in the session can turn conflict into connection. I help to negotiate a space where both of you can communicate about the big issues.

Book a couple session to invite change

Make a Time

Carve out 60 minutes to stop the widening gap. Book your session together. Think of it as your weekly date!

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Prioritize keeping the relationship by not allowing your relationship session to get derailed.

Open a Conversation

In the session Henk will invite a conversation about the relationship.

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Feel heard again in equal power-sharing conversations about the relationship.

Negotiate ways to talk, and ways to get relational space from each other, with consent. Where there's no following. Make intimacy possible again. Begin the process of connecting. Stop the widening gap.

Fees

$135 per session Individual or couple is the same.

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By booking 3 - 4 sessions, one week apart, you are more likely to reserve the time-slots that work best for you.

This means it is more likely that you will be successful in following through and getting timely followup.

You can easily cancel, right up to 24 hours before any session. Simply send a text. Or email.

Couple coaching alternative to marriage counsellor in Hamilton.

Henk Ensing

Narrative-Informed Relational Interviewing (NIRI).

Postliminary Training Completed

Youth and Porn: Understanding and Navigating the Issues. Delivered at the NZAC Webinar (Nov 2024), by Jo Robertson, a sex therapist and researcher, examined the evolving online porn landscape and its impacts on young people in Aotearoa. Key topics included the psychological and social effects of pornography, practical strategies for building resilience, and tools for engaging in shame-free, youth-centered conversations. Robertson, a consultant for The Light Project and co-founder of the "Makes Sense" campaign to combat illegal sexual content online, shared insights from her TEDx talk on the need to address pornography openly and constructively.

Helping Clients Cope and Heal from Sex Addiction–Intimacy Anorexia (SA-IA). (2024) This training introduced therapists to the concept of intimacy anorexia, its interplay with problematic sexual behaviors, and therapeutic approaches for clients and their partners. Presented by Dr. Janice Caudill, a psychologist and certified specialist with extensive experience in this field.

Same Gender Attraction (SGA), Pornography Addiction, Intergrative Behavioural Couple Therapy (IBCT) (2013). LDS Family Services, Welfare and Self Reliance Services, training presented by Michael Satele (MNZPS 90-02578) & Paulo Bisogno, (MNZPS 90-04583) Registered Psychologists.

Postliminary Studies Completed (PLIs and IPCs)

Certificate | Working with People Facing Despair, Unworthiness and/or Suicidal Thoughts: Moving Beyond Risk Assessment Towards Stories of Resistance and Hope (2024). Narrative Therapy Initiative, Postliminary Intensive (PLI), Narrative Therapy Initiative (NTI), 65 Tyler Avenue, Medford, MA 02155, USA.

Certificate | Advanced Skills in Narrative Practice: Narrative-Informed Relational Interviewing (NIRI) with Conflicted Couple Relationships (2023). CECs recognised by Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association (CCPA). Vancouver School of Narrative Therapy (VSNT)

PLS; Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model Training (2021). Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS). APSATS is a non-profit organization providing professional training and compassionate support to partners affected by problematic sexual behavior and betrayal trauma. APSATS, Dublin, OH 43016-9296, USA.

IPC; Conflict Resolution: Restorative Approaches | Facilitating Conflict Resolution through Mediation and Adopting a Narrative Perspective. (UoW, 2019). IPC, University of Waikato (UoW), Hamilton, New Zealand.

Undergraduate Degrees