shape your relationship
4 Powerful appreciations each day
- The first four minutes you both are awake in the morning
- Saying “Goodbye”
- The first four minutes you are home in the evening
- Saying “Goodnight”.
According to Dr. Gary Brainerd, what you do during these times each day has 5 times the impact on your relationship than other times.
Use these critical moments to say or do things that make your partner feel loved.
- Give a 60-second full-body hug
Don’t just count the seconds. Use the time to share an appreciation.
- Share an appreciation … “One thing I appreciate about you is …”
Take turns. Look into each other’s eyes, finish the statement:
“One thing I appreciate about you is …”
Try a 30-second appreciation one way, then a 30 second appreciation the other way. Giving one. Receiving one. All the while embracing in a 60-second full body hug.
Do this as an ongoing practice in your relationship.