About Henk Ensing

I’m Henk 

The study in which I have worked

B Ed University of Waikato, New Zealand.

Assoc. Sci. US-HI

Post Graduate IPC COUNS 456 Conflict Resolution: Restorative Approaches, University of Waikato, New Zealand.

marriage counselling
The Approach 

I am drawn to a narrative approach in working with clients.

The theoretical underpinnings to this approach stem from the work of Johnella Bird, Michael White, John Winslade, Harville Hendrix and John Gottman.

I use the narrative approach in much of my work.  Extending education as a daily habit is a compass to the direction my practice takes me.

Last year, and this year, I study with a group of international practitioners and together we extend the skills we draw upon in this approach.

New learning is important to me.

This ever-new learning keeps me current with my chosen methodology.


MY relationships

Life experience has shaped my understanding around my own relationships. Including relationships with my children and grand children.  And more significantly, the relationship with the wonderful woman I married.

I married a bright and wise woman. My choice in marriage has been perhaps the single biggest influence in my life. Our relationship has informed me and taught me.

Couples’ problems make sense to me. Often from personal experience, or the experiences of others.



how to change myself to save my marriage

My work is informed by the insights of the following counsellors and psychotherapists.

Michael White, Honorary Ph.D.
Johnella Bird
John Gottman Ph.D
Julie Gottman Ph.D
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D
Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph. D
Dulwich Centre Faculty
Jacobson & Christensen
Gerald Monk Ph.D
John winslade Ph.D
Laura Brotherson
Jennifer Findlayson-FifE PH.D

should i save my marriage or move on
Jenny & Henk


Why meet with me?

Meeting with me is something you and your partner would have to choose.

  • Do you and your partner have difficult issues in your relationship? About money? About sex?
  • Is there is a struggling-to-talk problem, a talking-over-the-top problem, a not-listening or a not-being-heard problem?
  • Is the loudness (shouting), the criticism, the contempt or the disrespect present in your relationship?
  • Do either of you have trouble respecting each-other's boundaries?
  • Do either of you want to set boundaries?
  • Is there is a loss-of-trust?

If "YES", then perhaps getting help could mean book a session