About Henk 

Henk Ensing

Postliminary studies include i.a. IPC COUNS 546 Conflict Resolution: Restorative Approaches, University of Waikato, New Zealand (2019)

Member: IAMFC (International Association of Marriage and Family Counsellors

Henk Ensing couples relationship help
The Approach 

I am drawn to a narrative approach in working with clients. I also include principles and insights from other approaches.

The theoretical underpinnings to my approach stem from the work of Michael White & David Epston, with insights from others including John Winslade, Jonella Bird,  Harville Hendrix and John Gottman.

I value reading widely and deeply. I find it neccessary to hold to a daily habit of reading deeply so as to have a flow of expertise and insights from others in the field of relationships and couple work.

I also value the sharing of ideas among other students of family and couple therapy. Such sharing of insights allows for constant extention of the skills needed to work with couples with a wide range of issues.

New learning is hugely important to me. 


MY relationships

Life experience has shaped my understanding around my own relationships. Including relationships with my children and grand children.  And more significantly, the relationship with the wonderful woman I married.

I married a bright and wise woman (Jenny). My choice in marriage has been perhaps the single biggest influence in my life. Our relationship has informed me and taught me.

Couples’ problems make sense to me. Often from personal experience, or the experiences of others.




My work is informed by the insights of the following:

Judith Butler
Jacques Derrida
Michael White, Honorary Ph.D.
Johnella Bird
John Gottman Ph.D
Julie Gottman Ph.D
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D
Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph. D
Dulwich Centre Faculty
Jacobson & Christensen
Gerald Monk Ph.D
John winslade Ph.D
Laura Brotherson
Jennifer Findlayson-FifE PH.D

Jenny & Henk


Why meet with me?

Meeting with me is something you and your partner would have to choose.

  • Do you and your partner have difficult issues in your relationship? About money? About sex?
  • Is there is a struggling-to-talk problem, a talking-over-the-top problem, a not-listening or a not-being-heard problem?
  • Is the loudness (shouting), the criticism, the contempt or the disrespect present in your relationship?
  • Do either of you have trouble respecting each-other's boundaries?
  • Do either of you want to set boundaries?
  • Is there is a loss-of-trust?

If "YES", then perhaps getting help could mean book a session