About Henk Ensing
The study in which I have worked
B Ed University of Waikato, New Zealand.
Assoc. Sci. US-HI
Post Graduate IPC COUNS 456 Conflict Resolution: Restorative Approaches, University of Waikato, New Zealand.
I am drawn to a narrative approach in working with clients.
The theoretical underpinnings to this approach stem from the work of Michael White.
Most days, I learn more about the narrative approach. Extending education as a daily habit is a compass to the direction my practice takes me.
Last year, and this year, I study with a group of international practitioners and together we extend the skills we draw upon in this approach.
New learning is important to me.
This ever-new learning keeps me current with my chosen methodology.
Life experience has shaped my understanding around my own relationships. Including relationships with my children and grand children. And more significantly, the relationship with the wonderful woman I married.
I married a bright and wise woman. My choice in marriage has been perhaps the single biggest influence in my life. Our relationship has informed me and taught me.
Couples’ problems make sense to me. Often from personal experience, or the experiences of others.
I live on a semi-forested lifestyle block, next to a river. I care for 100 trees, two milking goats and four hens.
Wood splitting is my gym workout.
I prefer remote camping in coastal forests.
Also, swimming in the rough surf when there are big waves.
MY WORK IS INFORMED BY
My work is informed by the insights of the following counsellors and psychotherapists.
Michael White, Honorary Ph.D.
John Gottman Ph.D
Julie Gottman Ph.D
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D
Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph. D
Dulwich Centre Faculty
Jacobson & Christensen
Gerald Monk Ph.D
John winslade Ph.D
Jenny & Henk
Years of marriage
Why meet with me?
Meeting with me is something you and your partner would have to choose.
- Do you and your partner have difficult issues in your relationship? About money? About sex?
- Is there is a struggling-to-talk problem, a talking-over-the-top problem, a not-listening or a not-being-heard problem?
- Is the loudness (shouting), the criticism, the contempt or the disrespect present in your relationship?
- Do either of you have trouble respecting each-other's boundaries?
- Do either of you want to set boundaries?
- Is there is a loss-of-trust?
If "YES", then perhaps getting help could mean book a session