Actual Feelings
Afraid
Sad
Disappointed
Anxious
Suspicious
Surprised
Jealous
Miserable
Confused
Stupid
Angry
Ashamed
Withdrawn
Indifferent
Sorry
Depressed
Enraged
Frightened
Shy
Hopeful
Regretful
Scared
Stubborn
Guilty
Nervous
Embarrassed
Proud
Lonely
Frustrated
Hurt
Tired
Puzzled
Skeptical
Worried
How to make “I FEEL” statements
I do this differently than Dr Marie Fang.
I feel _____(ACTUAL EMOTION)
when ___(OBSERVABLE EVENT)___ happens.
(do not use the word YOU)
What I prefer is _________________ .
I do this differently than the couple above.
I feel _____(ACTUAL EMOTION)
when ___(OBSERVABLE EVENT)___ happens.
(do NOT say YOU as in the video above)
What I prefer is _________________ .
I do this differently than the video above. But notice how they say what they would prefer.
I feel _____upset __
when ___waiting in the car___ happens.
(do not use the word YOU)
What I prefer is _to leave on time .
Try it this way instead…
I feel _____(ACTUAL EMOTION)
when ___(OBSERVABLE EVENT)___ happens.
What I prefer is _________________ .
Avoid blaming this way. Use “I statements”, not “YOU statements”.