by Henk Ensing | Apr 7, 2022 | Relationship Tools
Asking Unhelpful Questions After Betrayal | Dr. Jake Porter Many times when we confront our partners in anger, we will begin to ask either too many questions or ask questions in ways that are not constructive. However this does not mean that these questions are the...
by Henk Ensing | Mar 16, 2022 | Relationship Tools
Derailing Conversations in Relationships Couple conversations can get derailed. Derailment is a metaphor. It means that the conversation becomes like a train off the tracks. Sometimes this means the conversation stops, as one or both choose not to speak as to avoid...
by Henk Ensing | Mar 7, 2022 | Relationship Tools
When you are the receiver in a conversation, it helps the speaker if they think that ‘you get it!’. That you more than just hear them, that you really get what they have said. A simple empathy statement can help with that.10 Scripted phrase Start your...
by Henk Ensing | Mar 2, 2022 | Relationship Tools
Fallen out of love? Quite often I’m visited by a couple where one partner no longer feels the love they once had. To them it seems that the love has gone. It can be easy for them to wonder if it will ever return. They may think that it does not seem likely. It...
by Henk Ensing | Feb 11, 2022 | Relationship Tools
This is the process to follow. There are four stages. The ‘scripted phrases’ act as markers. The ‘scripted phrases’ tell both people where we are up to in the dialog. Using the ‘scripted phrases’ can be helpful to both The Speaker...
by Henk Ensing | Feb 10, 2022 | Relationship Tools
It can be helpful to plan self-care after each couple session. Couple sessions can be draining, so planning for recovery from this can help you to heal. Self-care can be done with friends, alone, with your partner, or something else. It may be best not to discuss hot...
