Connectedness
Insights into connecting with your partner
Workbooks: Sexual Betrayal
Would you like to borrow a book from my Practice Library? Several books are...
Weekly Couple Meeting
It can help to set up a weekly meeting with your partner. Agree to have the Couple...
Getting Help, Getting Safe
At the beginning of the session with me, I asked you to complete the online safety...
Dudes – Needing to Talk
This is post is specifically for blokes - Dudes who want to fix the relationship,...
Disclosing Truth After Betrayal
Disclosing Truth after Betrayal with Dan Drake, Janice Caudill & Dr. Jake...
Once Trust is Broken
Ways couples can work through infidelity. Watch this video below before beginning...
Questions After Betrayal
Asking Unhelpful Questions After Betrayal | Dr. Jake Porter Many times when we...
Couple Dialog Overview
Derailing Conversations in Relationships Couple conversations can get derailed....
Empathy Statements
When you are the receiver in a conversation, it helps the speaker if they think...
The Stages of Love in Marriage
Fallen out of love? Quite often I'm visited by a couple where one partner no longer...
The Couple Dialog: The 4 Stages
This is the process to follow. There are four stages. The 'scripted phrases' act as...
Self-care After a Session
It can be helpful to plan self-care after each couple session. Couple sessions can...
Tea and Consent
I've written this post to assist couples in relationships where non-consensual sex...
Low Libido in the Relationship
It can be difficult when there is an imbalance of libido in the relationship. It...
Communicating Frustrations
How can we communicate a frustration in a helpful way? One way is to use an "I...
Couple Dialog with Frustrations
The Couple Dialog has an additional step when used to converse about frustrations...
Boundaries or Control in Couple Relationships
Control, Privacy and Healthy Boundaries If you haven’t yet been introduced to the...
Putting Together The Plan After Betrayal
When someone is suffering from Betrayal Trauma, they are typically frightened,...
“All or Nothing” Expectations around Our Partner’s Addiction
When someone we love has an addiction, it's...
Healing Past Hurts: An Apology Process for Couples
Horrible couple-conversations from long ago seem to bubble up sometimes. Arguments....
Dating Your Spouse: Reconnecting for Married Couples
Couples in marriage relationships sometimes stop doing what they used to do. They...
Finding stuff to talk about
Sometimes it can be hard to talk. Maybe you are comfortable not talking. Perhaps it...
Needing to Talk
Sometimes we may feel a strong need to talk. However, we may not have someone to...
Communicating after Betrayal
Betrayal Trauma and Couple Communication What is betrayal trauma? When betrayal...
Time Out to Recover
De-escalate the Couple Conflict Some relationship tools are helpful in...
Setting Boundaries
Couples can set boundaries to make things better in the relationship. Boundaries...
A-B-C (Awareness, Breathe, Choose)
What You Can Feel You Can Heal Awareness of what we feel is the first step to...
Couple Dialog Conversations can Feel Weird
Couple Dialog can feel weird. Partly because the speaking and listening is...
Chat for 15 minutes a Day
The Couple Dialog may take five days of practice before you are ready to talk about the Big Issues.